The word grateful in the dictionary states:  “warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received; thankful.

We hear the word grateful and living in gratitude these days and I ask how do you live in gratitude?

To truly live in gratitude takes the heart and mind to be in that place of gratitude.  A place where you can truly say, “I AM GRATEFUL.”

We take so much for granted in life.  We have so many commodities in our everyday living.  Food, drink, shelter, clothing, the air that we breathe, the beauty around us.  Keeping our eyes open to see the beauty, to appreciate life and all its wonders, this is living in gratitude.  The wonderment of life and all it has to offer.

We sometimes get so wrapped up in our busy lives with all the things that are on our “TO DO” lists that it’s so easy to lose sight that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.  When this happens we forget gratitude.

So how do we reset our brains to connect with our hearts and live in a space of gratitude?

Some Simple Steps to Follow

1.       Take a moment to breathe

2.       Start living in the moment by appreciating the glories of the present moment in our ordinary


3.       If you have to start wearing a rubber band around your wrist to stop yourself in your tracks

to give gratitude – it’s a start.  It works!

4.       Don’t take life for granted. 

Start a “gratitude” journal – if you are one of those that can’t find anything to be grateful for, then start small:  for getting up  in the morning in a bed, for the sunshine, for the rain, for a place to live, for food on your table.

I truly believe that the more gratitude we have the more things will come in our lives that we can be grateful for which leads to total joy for life.

Living in an “attitude of gratitude” changes our perspective in life.  It’s the shift in our thinking.  Dr. Wayne Dyer states so boldly; “when we change our feelings we change our destiny.”

Start with the little things to be grateful for and the bigger things will come…..your life will change!


Hello Girlfriends – Meet my guest blogger Roseanna Leaton, she is my official 1st guest blogger on this site and very proud to share her post with you today! Hope my readers will walk away thinking……

Do you really value you friends or do you take them for granted?  Everyone has different priorities in their lives and from time to time it is easy to forget the things which are really most important to us.

Everyone is different.  Some of us like to have a wide circle of friends whilst others prefer to just have one or two good friends. When you move to a new country or even a new area it can be difficult to work out how to make new friends and find your place within your new community.

Many factors come into play.  There can be language, cultural, educational or economic forces which impact upon the socialization process.  There are also personal attributes which affect the way in which you build friendships and relationships with others.  Some of us are shy whilst others are confident.  Some of us have interests which provide a platform which makes it easier to bond with others, whilst others have interests which do not involve meeting and mixing with others.

You may have heard of a fun psychological test called the “Cube”.  Basically, you are asked a series of simple questions.  You have a desert scenery and there is a cube in that desert; describe your cube.  That’s the first question.  Then you are told that you have a ladder in your desert and asked to describe your ladder.  You also have a horse in your desert and go on to describe your horse.  A few further questions and the test is complete.

At the end you are simply told that the cube represents you as a person, the ladder your friends, the horse stands for your partner and so on.  This test is simple and a lot of fun…and also very revealing!  I have heard people describe their cube as a sugar cube or a harem tent.  I recall one person saying that their cube was very small and positioned just far enough away from their horse so that they couldn’t be kicked.

But reverting to the subject of friendship, some people have strong steel ladders whilst others have old rotten wooden ones.  Some ladders are inside the cube whilst others or outside, either leaning up against the cube or thrown away at a distance from the cube.  I have heard someone say that they had chopped their ladder up and used it for firewood whilst another said they just used it as something to tether their horse to.

There are no  right or wrong answers to this test.  There is no analysis at the end.  But I think everyone goes away thinking about what they have said and perhaps worry about what it has revealed to themselves (and others) about their own personality or priorities.

There is no doubt that some of us value our friends more than others and some of us find it more difficult to make friends than others.  We are each living this life on our own path and have selected our own priorities.  But sometimes it is good to reflect upon our day to day life and values.

It is good to ask yourself if you really do value your friends enough.  And then if the answer comes up in the negative you could, if your wished, decide to do something to change that.  It is never too late to change.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads for relationship issues.

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My journey with has come to a closure. It’s time to crossover and as they say in Italian attraversiamo…….

Photography by David Lawn

I created and founded this site exactly 2 years ago on August 1, 2010. In the 2 years I have taken 3 trips across America from right coast to left coast. I have lived in places that people go and vacation in. Places like Sausalito, CA, Chicago, Illinois, Asheville, NC, Charleston, SC, Folly Beach, SC and currently in Carolina Beach, NC. It has come time for my crossover. I pondered on the word crossover and its meaning and this story of the Buddha and the raft was given to me by my daughter Amanda. 


The Parable of the Raft is probably one of the most famous parables taught by the Buddha. He compared his own teachings to a raft that could be used to cross the river, but should be discarded when one made it safely to the other shore.

A man is trapped on one side of a fast-flowing river. Where he stands, there is great danger and uncertainty – but on the far side of the river, there is safety. But there is no bridge or ferry for crossing. So the man gathers logs, leaves, twigs, and vines and is able to fashion a raft, sturdy enough to carry him to the other shore. By lying on the raft and using his arms to paddle, he crosses the river to safety.

The Buddha then asks the listeners a question: “What would you think if the man, having crossed over the river, then said to himself, ‘Oh, this raft has served me so well, I should strap it on to my back and carry it over land now?’” The Monk replied that it would not be very sensible to cling to the raft in such a way.

The Buddha continues: “What if he lay the raft down gratefully, thinking that this raft has served him well, but is no longer of use and can thus be laid down upon the shore?”

The monks replied that this would be the proper attitude.

The Buddha concluded by saying, “So it is with my teachings, which are like a raft, and are for crossing over with — not for seizing hold of.” 

So at that I crossover to another part of my life – no need to cling to the things you love but to let them free in order for them to take on a new life for themselves. 

I have followed different personal development blogs over the years and have grown and learned from so many of them. It’s all been said, in one blog or another. The advice offered is splendid but how many of us truly want to create change? How many truly want to get out of their comfort zones? Each one offers different perspectives, different solutions to issues, different ways on how to “get happy.”

So now I will include my list of perspectives on life and what I’ve learned through my amazing journey with MakeGirlfriends.

My list of transformation and growth

1. Live Simply – if that means put everything in storage and move every 4-6 months – go for it – it’s not all about the destination but the journey that makes us who we are. Ghandi stated, “Live simply so others can simply live.”

2. Live in the Present Moment – for this is truly what we have is the “moment”. We may have illusions of time but it’s all about the moment, I have a very good friend that would remind me, where are your shoes right now – I would say right here – that is where the moment lies.

3. No Judgment – stop judging others and it will be easier to stop judging yourself.

4. Forgive and Let Go – forgiveness is an act of self love and to truly forgive allows us to let go.

5. No Obligations – meaning do things out of LOVE and not GUILT.

6. LOVE – really and truly LOVE – for LOVE is the basis of everything beautiful and we are LOVE at our core! See through a child’s eyes. Be thrilled and excited about life. Find miracles everywhere. We are all capable of grand LOVE. Open your heart to LOVE!

7. NO FEAR – There are 2 human emotions FEAR or LOVE – you choose! When you operate from fear there is no love and when you operate from love there is no fear.

8. You are the Author of your life – Live out your life as if you are writing your life story.

9. Too much FUN is never enough! – no need to explain this one so give yourself permission to have FUN.

10. Stop and smell the flowers always – not when there is time but always; make yourself STOP!

11. Be TRUE to yourself – live in that authentic truth to yourself and you will never have to remember the lies to keep a story straight.

12. Live by the Four Agreements – 1) Impeccable Word, 2) Don’t take anything personally, 3) Never make assumptions, 4) Always do your best.

13. Live, Laugh and Dance as if today was your last day on earth.

14. Buy the SHOES!

15. Courage – never be afraid to tell the truth for it takes courage to speak in the truth and can change a life.

Brené Brown, Ph.D. writes, “Courage originally meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’ Over time, this definition has changed, and today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics is important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.”

16. Take care of your body – You only have one body and it’s your temple; look good and feel good for yourself first. Exercise and eating healthy is key.

17. I AM Statements – the power of the word from the beginning of time. I AM THAT I AM!

18. Gratitude – live in an attitude of gratitude – the more we are grateful for the more will come into our lives that we can be grateful of. Know that I am grateful for all of you that have followed me and have taken the time to comment on my blog posts.

19. Being Happy is a CHOICE – you choose!

20. Peace, Harmony, Happiness and LOVE to each one of you – living in love and light.

In case anyone is asking why are you letting go? I have been thinking of letting go for a many months now and here are some of the reasons:

1. When I realized that habit was taking over my passion for writing posts that’s a true sign to observe and do something different. Habit makes you continue to do things over and over and expecting different results – wait, isn’t that the definition of Insanity?

2. I spent so much time, energy and money on this website and I started to cling to that fact instead and I continued to post blogs due to that fact.

3. Letting Go = Failure (EGO talking) – In reality – LETTING GO = FREEDOM

4. Trusting that when you say “no” to what doesn’t serve you, life says “yes” to your greatness.

I read recently a quote from Abraham: There are no choices that are really a detour that will take you far from where you’re wanting to be because your Inner Being is always guiding you to the next, and the next, and the next. So don’t be concerned that you may make a fatal choice because there aren’t any of those. You are always finding your balance. It’s a never ending process.

I have made incredible relationships through the blogging community, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Corinne Edwards, Kelly Rudolph, Maureen Simon and Nicole Rushin. I have not met Galen Pearl, Alex Blackwell, David Stephens, Martin and Pam Clooney, Irving from Hans of Harmony and Debbie Bills. All of these people work very hard on their blogs and I celebrate their work.

So now I take all the time I’ve spent on blogging and writing for my blog and will dedicate that time to writing my book that has been in progress for about 2 years now. I am in the creative collaboration stage so I am a little reluctant to give you the title. I ask that you stay in touch for I would love to hear about your lives. I will continue to follow your blog posts but won’t feel the pressure of having to respond, picking and choosing what I would like to read. Living in line with my truth. I will now have more time with face to face and eye to eye interaction with people I meet.

So now I introduce you to the first person that came to my “heart” Nathalie Villeneuve. She started the group on facebook named “The Women of Facebook” and she will continue this beautiful space of love and passion with Nathalie will not be changing the name of the site.

I will have the pleasure of introducing Nathalie next week to you all. My final day will be August 1, 2012.


Peace, Harmony, Happiness, Love to all of you and……as always, I sign

Inner Creativity Unleashed

Following the wonderful response I received with The Bridge Of My Wonderful Life Journey I wanted to tell you part of  the story that lead me to a wonderful series of events that perfectly aligned creating a beam of light on the road I needed to fallow.

Last January I started 2012 telling my friends that my word for the new year was ” C L A R I T Y”. I  knew I would find my true purpose! I just didn’t know how…

I read many great books between January and May. There was one that ignited a lot of the events which led to where I am today. This book is “The Power Of Positive Thinking” by Dr.Norman Vincent Peale.

One of the exercise at the beginning of this book was to write the word “Believe” on a piece of paper and place it where I could see it every morning so I would say the word I believe 3 times as soon as I woke up….so I pinned it on the ceiling above my bed. These two words are so deeply imprinted in my mind that I sometimes say “I Believe” while I am still dreaming.

The next thing I did was to commit to memory a few great quotes that give me energy throughout the day and helped me in keeping a positive mindset. My favorite quote :

I am consciously attaching myself to the creative forces a operating within myself. I am open to the tides of vitality and re-creative energy present in the universe.

I repeat this quote before I fall asleep and as several times during the day as well as some other great quotes and prayers. It’s amazing how many people I started to attract and be attracted too once I truly decided to change.

On Wednesday June 30TH I was going through my news feed on Facebook looking for inspiration as I usually do before I either create content or share a quote.

One of the  titles quickly caught my eye so I clicked on it and started to read. Actually, it took me a little while to take my eyes off a picture of a girl floating above a beautiful lake wearing a nightgown.  I don’t know why this picture almost got me hypnotized.

The title said of the article read; “Getting Out of Our Own Way by Oriah Mountain Dreamer“. I have been f0llowing Oriah for over a year now and seeing her name as the author was another reason I was so attracted to this article but mainly…getting out of my own way was exactly what I wanted to do!

So once I was able to lift my gaze from the picture I read the first sentence of the article. As I write about this, I can still feel the electricity go through my body now as it did  when I read the first few words of Oriah’s article…

“Sometimes I prime the creative pump for writing by messing around with paint and paper. I paint, in part, because I enjoy it and I’m not particularly good at it so I don’t expect to do it well, don’t have to worry about deadlines or the quality of the end product”. ~ Oriah

Most people reading this story probably enjoyed it for what it is meant to be…A story about how Oriah sometimes get’s her inspiration going through painting. For me, reading these words were like finding the answer to an enigma for which I couldn’t even begin to think of the questions that would have led me to it’s discovery.

After reading Oriah’s article I connected with several of the ladies she mentioned in her article…It was like following a treasure map!

On July 3 I became friends on Facebook with Michele Cassou and I am reading one of her book “Point Zero”. I am loving every page. I am also in contact through e-mail with Eve-Marie Elkin from New York. I plan to have my first workshop with her this Fall.

On July 9,  I spoke with my girlfriend Nancy Shields who offered me to take over!! There has been amazing events as I was saying that led me to knowing my true life purpose and I feel so blessed and grateful!

Daily I meet new fabulous ladies on my group The Women Of Facebook and I am so thrilled to share my journey and how I overcame negativity, being overwhelmed and how I suffered from not having a direction.

I went from not knowing HOW  to live with purpose to “BELIEVING” in who “I AM”…I am a passionate painter, an entrepreneur and on a mission to assist & inspire people in expressing their inner- creativity so they unleash their playfulness, vitality and purpose.

There is a lot of work ahead of me…from creating my program to experiencing Point Zero and other fabulous courses that will enable to have all I the desired skills to fully assist others in their own discoveries. I couldn’t be more thrilled to roll up my sleeves and say to myself and to you: “Let’s Work It Girlfriends” …

The Bridge Of My Wonderful Life Journey

Lately my motto has been: “Sense and feel every decision you are making and you are sure to advance steadily and easily in the direction of your dreams”

The more we trust our inner voice, the more we attract the things we need to  live our life authentically. I must say that embracing these principals and listening to my intuition is transforming my life and I have never felt so confident and excited about the events and opportunities unfolding in front of me.

But this didn’t  happen overnight and I’d like to tell you how perseverance and belief has brought me here.

The online and social media world was introduced to me as a tool to grow my business in the fall of 2009. I believe that because I was not aligned with my true purpose at that time, my online experience has been like a winding road made of steep hills and plenty of road blocks.

Knowing Your Purpose

Like a lot of people I met online in the past 2 years, it took me a while before establishing my grounds and knowing what I was suppose to accomplish on this journey.

Be You!

For a while, I was trying to be someone else…Somehow my perception of how I would attain success was distorted by listening to too many ideas from different people and things were hard.

Paint Your Dream

It’s one thing to be inspired by people we admire but we must stay true to who we are otherwise we can end up fallowing some else’s dream.

As much as I thought I knew my destination, it’s as if my internal compass was constantly shifting, altering my path and guiding me towards the correct path for ME. The path I am on today.

I’m glad I listened to my inner compass!

There were days when things got really tough and I just wanted to quit, crawl back under my comfort zone blanket and not see or connect with anybody…but I only stayed under my blanket a few seconds. Something in me ordered me to kick back the sheets of self-doubts and led me right back to my quest of self-discovery.

For things to change, you need to change. ~ Jim Rohn

We all resist change at some point in our life… its part of the process. What’s important to remember is that we have choices and we must learn to trust our instincts as much as we possibly can and go confidently in the direction of our dreams.

It’s up to us to search for the perfect flow that will transport us towards our next set of actions and closer to our goals!
The first step is to find awareness and clarity in our lives!

What I wish people to know about me:

I am a passionate painter, an entrepreneur and on a mission to assist & inspire people in expressing their inner- creativity so they unleash their playfulness, vitality and purpose.


My friend Nancy Shields has offered me a beautiful gift in assuming the continuity and progress of Make

The essence of her website mixes so well with the distinctiveness of the group I created 2 years ago called The Women of Facebook. The two of them fit perfectly together and will allow for the Make Girlfriends platform to serve as groundwork and  create a bridge for women to continue the conversation in an inviting and cozy environment.

I am honored to take on this fun project and infuse my personality as I invite women from all around the world to become balcony friends and continue what Nancy has already so wonderfully rendered…A PLATFORM FOR FRIENDSHIP.

Mission: To create a bridge between women around the world so that they make new girlfriends, voice their opinions and ideas, and share their knowledge to receive exposure and reach an attentive audience.

“Come by our online café!  Join us for coffee, or tea, or a stiff margharita if you need it!…and make girlfriends for life!”

“I would like to express a special thank you to the founding members of The Women of Facebook as they have ignited my desire to surround myself daily with the women spirit. You kept on my path and helped me discover my purpose and mission.”

~ Nathalie Villeneuve