What happens when love is not enough to sustain a relationship?

This past week I have been immersed with people coming into my life that are in relationships that probably should have ended a long time ago. They love that person and yet it’s not quite enough to stay. As these stories unravel, I reflect on my own life.

My girlfriend in California – Giovanna- gave me these words of wisdom:

We are all on the same journey. We take different avenues, making stops, perhaps staying in a neighborhood or relationship too long. Eventually we all get there. Women (the feminine essence of spirit) are very good in seeing the potential in men and believing love will be enough to “fix” their partner. What often time happens in the relationship, when the fix does not happen fast enough or at all over time, the masculine energy in us starts coming out through nagging, blaming, expecting or a plethora of other things that operate from the negative. This pushes the man and the relationship away. We as women must remain in our power of the feminine through speaking from the heart and from our own truth.

Love Simply Is….We cannot “fix”

Simply No Expectations….

By living in our truth we learn to communicate in positive ways. Stating what is on our minds in a gentle, loving way. Nagging, blaming are catabolic reactions. We can learn to communicate by simply stating…….WHAT IS….

Why then at times is love not enough?

Potential: Because often we meet someone who is on a different level then we are and we see something in that person – we see their spirit, their potential. They may not be ready for what we have to make the change to operate from a higher vibration. Remember, we are mirrors and reflections of each other so we attract into our world what we see with our eyes that we need in order to learn and grow.

Timing: It may not be the “right” time yet, perfect nonetheless, for in every relationship there is a lesson to be learned for that time in our lives.

This is the part where we hold love “loosely.” We end up hanging on too long because we don’t want to hurt, disappoint, be alone, lose the house, the stuff in it and the memories of what was.

Life is to be experienced not haphazardly but in full joy and bliss! We all have the potential for bliss, and truly how many of us allow ourselves to go to a place of bliss and dance from our inner spirit. To live in the possibilities of life and all it’s adventures that it has to offer. To live from our imaginations. Like Albert Einstein once so eloquently stated, “imagination is more important than knowledge.”

I read this recently:

“Are we being driven by love or by a lie of obligations?”

This takes me to the next part of this article:

To love is to know when to let go and set it free so that person can grow according to HIS purpose and design. This takes courage.

The more open–hearted and vulnerable I am to love that enters my world and I remain as if I was an open vessel, it will and can transform me.

Love is a transformational force of nature.

The love that led to my marriage became the pain of its dissolution. The joy experienced by being with my grown children is also the heartache of our parting. We must taste the salt of our tears to know the sweetness of life. For life is forever sweet!

Love brings about intense joy as well as intense pain. This is the conundrum of this FOUR letter word that carries so much weight. If we can only remind ourselves that in this time of pain and letting go we open our hearts even more….more….and some more. The flip side of not opening up our hearts is closing our hearts and the cause of a closed heart is resentment, bitterness and more pain – and eventually shutting your heart to love even more.

I choose to be the open vessel when love comes calling. I welcome it with a gentle smile, gleaming eyes and know that through every relationship we are only learning to love even more.



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