David,  a very special man in my life, went to Guatemala in October on a mission trip with a team of 14 to build homes for widows and their children.  In a week’s time the team built 4 homes.  They gave these widows and their children a better place to live for their future.  I’m sure they ALL experienced the Spirit of Gratitude; the ones building the homes and the ones receiving this GIFT!

So I thought this post would be appropriate for this “Thanks-Giving”…..A time when we reflect on our gratitude…..My desire for each one of you is that you relish in life’s banquet today…..

David took this photograph which I have named, the “Bubble of Hope.”  I reflected upon my childhood and how a bottle of bubbles would keep me occupied.  Oh, the simple joy of pulling the stick out of the bottle and forming that most perfect bubble.  I discovered as I would blow bubble after bubble that you had to calculate your breath in just the right rhythm to accomplish getting a magnificent bubble as shown in this picture.  It’s said that a picture holds a thousand words and this picture immediately spoke to me upon seeing it.

I haven’t blown a bubble in a while and I think it’s time to blow some bubbles!

As I look at this picture and ponder on my words stirring in my head ~ I see a little girl with her hands being raised to the sky ~ I’m sure in pure bliss of the moment.  I also see a beautiful little boy with captivating black eyes looking up to the circle of love as his eyes reveal the soul of his ancestry.  I see the iridescent bubble representing unbridled joy.  Joy is not lost; it floated away in the sunlight of his life.  Notice the colors in this picture.

The space between the eyes of the little boy and the weathered hands of the little girl is the gap.  The gap where the moment lies; where breath, air and love for that moment created this most fabulous bubble floating towards the heavens along with their prayers.

What would the prayer be if a prayer was to be attached to this bubble of hope floating to heaven?

Would it be prayers of gratitude and love?  Would it be prayers of hope and joy? Would it be prayers of happiness and freedom?  What would your prayer be?

Notice the smile on the little boys face, he’s joyful and he is waiting patiently to have his turn at creating the most perfect bubble in time.

A simple bubble – and the joy it creates.

A wonderful reminder of how grateful I am for my breath and the ability to love each moment  which is truly a GIFT to me.

How much breath will you put forth to create the most perfect of bubbles?  Will you put out with force, for those are the times that the bubble folds and resist the breath? Will you put out with a gentleness allowing the breath to build slow and easy, with patience?  To have patience with our breath and the desire to create that amazing bubble allows the bubble to form and gently move toward the sky.

So this Thanksgiving, I want to take this opportunity to allow my breath to tell you how grateful I am for your support, your encouraging words to me, and for being there to read my posts when they are published.  For allowing yourself to be inspired, and inspiring me at the same time.

You are each a GIFT and know that I am GRATEFUL!

Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect
gratitude–but to give for the joy of giving.

Special thanks to you David for capturing with your eagle eye this portrait of unbridled bliss…..




What happens when love is not enough to sustain a relationship?

This past week I have been immersed with people coming into my life that are in relationships that probably should have ended a long time ago. They love that person and yet it’s not quite enough to stay. As these stories unravel, I reflect on my own life.

My girlfriend in California – Giovanna- gave me these words of wisdom:

We are all on the same journey. We take different avenues, making stops, perhaps staying in a neighborhood or relationship too long. Eventually we all get there. Women (the feminine essence of spirit) are very good in seeing the potential in men and believing love will be enough to “fix” their partner. What often time happens in the relationship, when the fix does not happen fast enough or at all over time, the masculine energy in us starts coming out through nagging, blaming, expecting or a plethora of other things that operate from the negative. This pushes the man and the relationship away. We as women must remain in our power of the feminine through speaking from the heart and from our own truth.

Love Simply Is….We cannot “fix”

Simply No Expectations….

By living in our truth we learn to communicate in positive ways. Stating what is on our minds in a gentle, loving way. Nagging, blaming are catabolic reactions. We can learn to communicate by simply stating…….WHAT IS….

Why then at times is love not enough?

Potential: Because often we meet someone who is on a different level then we are and we see something in that person – we see their spirit, their potential. They may not be ready for what we have to make the change to operate from a higher vibration. Remember, we are mirrors and reflections of each other so we attract into our world what we see with our eyes that we need in order to learn and grow.

Timing: It may not be the “right” time yet, perfect nonetheless, for in every relationship there is a lesson to be learned for that time in our lives.

This is the part where we hold love “loosely.” We end up hanging on too long because we don’t want to hurt, disappoint, be alone, lose the house, the stuff in it and the memories of what was.

Life is to be experienced not haphazardly but in full joy and bliss! We all have the potential for bliss, and truly how many of us allow ourselves to go to a place of bliss and dance from our inner spirit. To live in the possibilities of life and all it’s adventures that it has to offer. To live from our imaginations. Like Albert Einstein once so eloquently stated, “imagination is more important than knowledge.”

I read this recently:

“Are we being driven by love or by a lie of obligations?”

This takes me to the next part of this article:

To love is to know when to let go and set it free so that person can grow according to HIS purpose and design. This takes courage.

The more open–hearted and vulnerable I am to love that enters my world and I remain as if I was an open vessel, it will and can transform me.

Love is a transformational force of nature.

The love that led to my marriage became the pain of its dissolution. The joy experienced by being with my grown children is also the heartache of our parting. We must taste the salt of our tears to know the sweetness of life. For life is forever sweet!

Love brings about intense joy as well as intense pain. This is the conundrum of this FOUR letter word that carries so much weight. If we can only remind ourselves that in this time of pain and letting go we open our hearts even more….more….and some more. The flip side of not opening up our hearts is closing our hearts and the cause of a closed heart is resentment, bitterness and more pain – and eventually shutting your heart to love even more.

I choose to be the open vessel when love comes calling. I welcome it with a gentle smile, gleaming eyes and know that through every relationship we are only learning to love even more.




There are 3 things that we know for sure about life:  it has a beginning, it will end some day, and we should make the most of it while in between.

It’s the gap – the in between that I want to write about today.

This is what I call the GAP – the place between 2 places.

How are you living in the gap?

Are you living in a timid place full of fear?


Are you living in JOY full of laughter and peace?

To fully live life out loud means to smell the roses, enjoy the view, take the opportunity to meet and smile at a stranger and truly touch a life for that moment in time.

Sometimes we take life so seriously that we forget to exhale.  We run from one place to the next place and forget where we’ve been.  RUSH, FAST, HURRY is part of our vocabulary.  We don’t make time for ourselves because we’re too busy taking care of everyone else.  We even think it’s selfish to make time for ourselves.

Allow me to dispel that myth.

It’s okay to take care of yourself – to breathe – to exhale.

In my opinion, if you don’t exhale then you are probably almost on the verge of burnout.  It’s time to charge your batteries and take care of YOU.

So I believe there is a co-relation between slowing down and living your life out loud.

Do the things that matter most in life like spending time with your family, your loved ones.  Take the time to show the most important people in your life that they matter and you care.  Take the time to spend with friends.  Take that spontaneous trip.  In fact, I write this post on an airplane flying to Chicago.  My son is a pilot and he had sent me a text the night before stating he was flying to my town and if I wanted to catch a flight to Chicago with him since he had a few days off.  I pondered, and yes I was busy with work but I had the opportunity and I seized the moment – YES – I will!  Work will always be there, errands to run will be run, work will get done but precious moments with loved ones leave you with the memories of a lifetime.  So memories I created by going to Chicago with Kevin.

“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson


The word grateful in the dictionary states:  “warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received; thankful.

We hear the word grateful and living in gratitude these days and I ask how do you live in gratitude?

To truly live in gratitude takes the heart and mind to be in that place of gratitude.  A place where you can truly say, “I AM GRATEFUL.”

We take so much for granted in life.  We have so many commodities in our everyday living.  Food, drink, shelter, clothing, the air that we breathe, the beauty around us.  Keeping our eyes open to see the beauty, to appreciate life and all its wonders, this is living in gratitude.  The wonderment of life and all it has to offer.

We sometimes get so wrapped up in our busy lives with all the things that are on our “TO DO” lists that it’s so easy to lose sight that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.  When this happens we forget gratitude.

So how do we reset our brains to connect with our hearts and live in a space of gratitude?

Some Simple Steps to Follow

1.       Take a moment to breathe

2.       Start living in the moment by appreciating the glories of the present moment in our ordinary


3.       If you have to start wearing a rubber band around your wrist to stop yourself in your tracks

to give gratitude – it’s a start.  It works!

4.       Don’t take life for granted. 

Start a “gratitude” journal – if you are one of those that can’t find anything to be grateful for, then start small:  for getting up  in the morning in a bed, for the sunshine, for the rain, for a place to live, for food on your table.

I truly believe that the more gratitude we have the more things will come in our lives that we can be grateful for which leads to total joy for life.

Living in an “attitude of gratitude” changes our perspective in life.  It’s the shift in our thinking.  Dr. Wayne Dyer states so boldly; “when we change our feelings we change our destiny.”

Start with the little things to be grateful for and the bigger things will come…..your life will change!


Hello Girlfriends – Meet my guest blogger Roseanna Leaton, she is my official 1st guest blogger on this site and very proud to share her post with you today! Hope my readers will walk away thinking……

Do you really value you friends or do you take them for granted?  Everyone has different priorities in their lives and from time to time it is easy to forget the things which are really most important to us.

Everyone is different.  Some of us like to have a wide circle of friends whilst others prefer to just have one or two good friends. When you move to a new country or even a new area it can be difficult to work out how to make new friends and find your place within your new community.

Many factors come into play.  There can be language, cultural, educational or economic forces which impact upon the socialization process.  There are also personal attributes which affect the way in which you build friendships and relationships with others.  Some of us are shy whilst others are confident.  Some of us have interests which provide a platform which makes it easier to bond with others, whilst others have interests which do not involve meeting and mixing with others.

You may have heard of a fun psychological test called the “Cube”.  Basically, you are asked a series of simple questions.  You have a desert scenery and there is a cube in that desert; describe your cube.  That’s the first question.  Then you are told that you have a ladder in your desert and asked to describe your ladder.  You also have a horse in your desert and go on to describe your horse.  A few further questions and the test is complete.

At the end you are simply told that the cube represents you as a person, the ladder your friends, the horse stands for your partner and so on.  This test is simple and a lot of fun…and also very revealing!  I have heard people describe their cube as a sugar cube or a harem tent.  I recall one person saying that their cube was very small and positioned just far enough away from their horse so that they couldn’t be kicked.

But reverting to the subject of friendship, some people have strong steel ladders whilst others have old rotten wooden ones.  Some ladders are inside the cube whilst others or outside, either leaning up against the cube or thrown away at a distance from the cube.  I have heard someone say that they had chopped their ladder up and used it for firewood whilst another said they just used it as something to tether their horse to.

There are no  right or wrong answers to this test.  There is no analysis at the end.  But I think everyone goes away thinking about what they have said and perhaps worry about what it has revealed to themselves (and others) about their own personality or priorities.

There is no doubt that some of us value our friends more than others and some of us find it more difficult to make friends than others.  We are each living this life on our own path and have selected our own priorities.  But sometimes it is good to reflect upon our day to day life and values.

It is good to ask yourself if you really do value your friends enough.  And then if the answer comes up in the negative you could, if your wished, decide to do something to change that.  It is never too late to change.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads for relationship issues.

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My journey with www.weneedgirlfriends.tv has come to a closure. It’s time to crossover and as they say in Italian attraversiamo…….

Photography by David Lawn

I created and founded this site exactly 2 years ago on August 1, 2010. In the 2 years I have taken 3 trips across America from right coast to left coast. I have lived in places that people go and vacation in. Places like Sausalito, CA, Chicago, Illinois, Asheville, NC, Charleston, SC, Folly Beach, SC and currently in Carolina Beach, NC. It has come time for my crossover. I pondered on the word crossover and its meaning and this story of the Buddha and the raft was given to me by my daughter Amanda. 


The Parable of the Raft is probably one of the most famous parables taught by the Buddha. He compared his own teachings to a raft that could be used to cross the river, but should be discarded when one made it safely to the other shore.

A man is trapped on one side of a fast-flowing river. Where he stands, there is great danger and uncertainty – but on the far side of the river, there is safety. But there is no bridge or ferry for crossing. So the man gathers logs, leaves, twigs, and vines and is able to fashion a raft, sturdy enough to carry him to the other shore. By lying on the raft and using his arms to paddle, he crosses the river to safety.

The Buddha then asks the listeners a question: “What would you think if the man, having crossed over the river, then said to himself, ‘Oh, this raft has served me so well, I should strap it on to my back and carry it over land now?’” The Monk replied that it would not be very sensible to cling to the raft in such a way.

The Buddha continues: “What if he lay the raft down gratefully, thinking that this raft has served him well, but is no longer of use and can thus be laid down upon the shore?”

The monks replied that this would be the proper attitude.

The Buddha concluded by saying, “So it is with my teachings, which are like a raft, and are for crossing over with — not for seizing hold of.” 

So at that I crossover to another part of my life – no need to cling to the things you love but to let them free in order for them to take on a new life for themselves. 

I have followed different personal development blogs over the years and have grown and learned from so many of them. It’s all been said, in one blog or another. The advice offered is splendid but how many of us truly want to create change? How many truly want to get out of their comfort zones? Each one offers different perspectives, different solutions to issues, different ways on how to “get happy.”

So now I will include my list of perspectives on life and what I’ve learned through my amazing journey with MakeGirlfriends.

My list of transformation and growth

1. Live Simply – if that means put everything in storage and move every 4-6 months – go for it – it’s not all about the destination but the journey that makes us who we are. Ghandi stated, “Live simply so others can simply live.”

2. Live in the Present Moment – for this is truly what we have is the “moment”. We may have illusions of time but it’s all about the moment, I have a very good friend that would remind me, where are your shoes right now – I would say right here – that is where the moment lies.

3. No Judgment – stop judging others and it will be easier to stop judging yourself.

4. Forgive and Let Go – forgiveness is an act of self love and to truly forgive allows us to let go.

5. No Obligations – meaning do things out of LOVE and not GUILT.

6. LOVE – really and truly LOVE – for LOVE is the basis of everything beautiful and we are LOVE at our core! See through a child’s eyes. Be thrilled and excited about life. Find miracles everywhere. We are all capable of grand LOVE. Open your heart to LOVE!

7. NO FEAR – There are 2 human emotions FEAR or LOVE – you choose! When you operate from fear there is no love and when you operate from love there is no fear.

8. You are the Author of your life – Live out your life as if you are writing your life story.

9. Too much FUN is never enough! – no need to explain this one so give yourself permission to have FUN.

10. Stop and smell the flowers always – not when there is time but always; make yourself STOP!

11. Be TRUE to yourself – live in that authentic truth to yourself and you will never have to remember the lies to keep a story straight.

12. Live by the Four Agreements – 1) Impeccable Word, 2) Don’t take anything personally, 3) Never make assumptions, 4) Always do your best.

13. Live, Laugh and Dance as if today was your last day on earth.

14. Buy the SHOES!

15. Courage – never be afraid to tell the truth for it takes courage to speak in the truth and can change a life.

Brené Brown, Ph.D. writes, “Courage originally meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’ Over time, this definition has changed, and today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics is important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.”

16. Take care of your body – You only have one body and it’s your temple; look good and feel good for yourself first. Exercise and eating healthy is key.

17. I AM Statements – the power of the word from the beginning of time. I AM THAT I AM!

18. Gratitude – live in an attitude of gratitude – the more we are grateful for the more will come into our lives that we can be grateful of. Know that I am grateful for all of you that have followed me and have taken the time to comment on my blog posts.

19. Being Happy is a CHOICE – you choose!

20. Peace, Harmony, Happiness and LOVE to each one of you – living in love and light.

In case anyone is asking why are you letting MakeGirlfriends.com go? I have been thinking of letting go for a many months now and here are some of the reasons:

1. When I realized that habit was taking over my passion for writing posts that’s a true sign to observe and do something different. Habit makes you continue to do things over and over and expecting different results – wait, isn’t that the definition of Insanity?

2. I spent so much time, energy and money on this website and I started to cling to that fact instead and I continued to post blogs due to that fact.

3. Letting Go = Failure (EGO talking) – In reality – LETTING GO = FREEDOM

4. Trusting that when you say “no” to what doesn’t serve you, life says “yes” to your greatness.

I read recently a quote from Abraham: There are no choices that are really a detour that will take you far from where you’re wanting to be because your Inner Being is always guiding you to the next, and the next, and the next. So don’t be concerned that you may make a fatal choice because there aren’t any of those. You are always finding your balance. It’s a never ending process.

I have made incredible relationships through the blogging community, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Corinne Edwards, Kelly Rudolph, Maureen Simon and Nicole Rushin. I have not met Galen Pearl, Alex Blackwell, David Stephens, Martin and Pam Clooney, Irving from Hans of Harmony and Debbie Bills. All of these people work very hard on their blogs and I celebrate their work.

So now I take all the time I’ve spent on blogging and writing for my blog and will dedicate that time to writing my book that has been in progress for about 2 years now. I am in the creative collaboration stage so I am a little reluctant to give you the title. I ask that you stay in touch for I would love to hear about your lives. I will continue to follow your blog posts but won’t feel the pressure of having to respond, picking and choosing what I would like to read. Living in line with my truth. I will now have more time with face to face and eye to eye interaction with people I meet.

So now I introduce you to the first person that came to my “heart” Nathalie Villeneuve. She started the group on facebook named “The Women of Facebook” and she will continue this beautiful space of love and passion with MakeGirlfriends.com. Nathalie will not be changing the name of the site.

I will have the pleasure of introducing Nathalie next week to you all. My final day will be August 1, 2012.


Peace, Harmony, Happiness, Love to all of you and……as always, I sign

Inner Creativity Unleashed

Following the wonderful response I received with The Bridge Of My Wonderful Life Journey I wanted to tell you part of  the story that lead me to a wonderful series of events that perfectly aligned creating a beam of light on the road I needed to fallow.

Last January I started 2012 telling my friends that my word for the new year was ” C L A R I T Y”. I  knew I would find my true purpose! I just didn’t know how…

I read many great books between January and May. There was one that ignited a lot of the events which led to where I am today. This book is “The Power Of Positive Thinking” by Dr.Norman Vincent Peale.

One of the exercise at the beginning of this book was to write the word “Believe” on a piece of paper and place it where I could see it every morning so I would say the word I believe 3 times as soon as I woke up….so I pinned it on the ceiling above my bed. These two words are so deeply imprinted in my mind that I sometimes say “I Believe” while I am still dreaming.

The next thing I did was to commit to memory a few great quotes that give me energy throughout the day and helped me in keeping a positive mindset. My favorite quote :

I am consciously attaching myself to the creative forces a operating within myself. I am open to the tides of vitality and re-creative energy present in the universe.

I repeat this quote before I fall asleep and as several times during the day as well as some other great quotes and prayers. It’s amazing how many people I started to attract and be attracted too once I truly decided to change.

On Wednesday June 30TH I was going through my news feed on Facebook looking for inspiration as I usually do before I either create content or share a quote.

One of the  titles quickly caught my eye so I clicked on it and started to read. Actually, it took me a little while to take my eyes off a picture of a girl floating above a beautiful lake wearing a nightgown.  I don’t know why this picture almost got me hypnotized.

The title said of the article read; “Getting Out of Our Own Way by Oriah Mountain Dreamer“. I have been f0llowing Oriah for over a year now and seeing her name as the author was another reason I was so attracted to this article but mainly…getting out of my own way was exactly what I wanted to do!

So once I was able to lift my gaze from the picture I read the first sentence of the article. As I write about this, I can still feel the electricity go through my body now as it did  when I read the first few words of Oriah’s article…

“Sometimes I prime the creative pump for writing by messing around with paint and paper. I paint, in part, because I enjoy it and I’m not particularly good at it so I don’t expect to do it well, don’t have to worry about deadlines or the quality of the end product”. ~ Oriah

Most people reading this story probably enjoyed it for what it is meant to be…A story about how Oriah sometimes get’s her inspiration going through painting. For me, reading these words were like finding the answer to an enigma for which I couldn’t even begin to think of the questions that would have led me to it’s discovery.

After reading Oriah’s article I connected with several of the ladies she mentioned in her article…It was like following a treasure map!

On July 3 I became friends on Facebook with Michele Cassou and I am reading one of her book “Point Zero”. I am loving every page. I am also in contact through e-mail with Eve-Marie Elkin from New York. I plan to have my first workshop with her this Fall.

On July 9,  I spoke with my girlfriend Nancy Shields who offered me to take over Makegirlfriends.com!! There has been amazing events as I was saying that led me to knowing my true life purpose and I feel so blessed and grateful!

Daily I meet new fabulous ladies on my group The Women Of Facebook and I am so thrilled to share my journey and how I overcame negativity, being overwhelmed and how I suffered from not having a direction.

I went from not knowing HOW  to live with purpose to “BELIEVING” in who “I AM”…I am a passionate painter, an entrepreneur and on a mission to assist & inspire people in expressing their inner- creativity so they unleash their playfulness, vitality and purpose.

There is a lot of work ahead of me…from creating my program to experiencing Point Zero and other fabulous courses that will enable to have all I the desired skills to fully assist others in their own discoveries. I couldn’t be more thrilled to roll up my sleeves and say to myself and to you: “Let’s Work It Girlfriends” …